Your Story is a series by WonderfulWoman where you will read inspiring Guest Posts from women around the world. Here they share their experiences, stories and things that matter most to all women.
Today’s Guest Post is by Rebekah Louise from rebekahlouisewrites.com, Rebekah is also a freelance writer who focuses on writing articles and blog posts on women’s emotional healing. Due to the anxiety and depression that followed the adoption breakdown she now wants to help other women who have been through traumatic experiences and want to move forward in their emotional healing.
In 2013 my husband and I adopted a sibling group of three children, we were so excited to begin our family life together. From day one it was an uphill struggle, the children had emotional needs reflecting their past trauma that were difficult to meet. We sought advice, however, in hindsight, it was the depth of support that we needed.
As the days and weeks rolled on it was clear that I was suffering from post-adoption depression& blocked care. I could not emotionally connect with my children and this was heartbreaking. My husband struggled too, but regardless we continued to fight for our family and to do the very best we could.
Sadly, as time went on things went from bad to worse and it was clear that we were not able to meet some of the children’s needs and therefore the children could no longer live with us. To say this was devastating would be an understatement. Our dreams of giving adopted children a home had been dashed.
Over the last couple of years, my husband and I have received judgment, criticism, love, and support. People we thought cared about us have walked away, while other family members and friends have emotionally carried us through this traumatic experience.
As a result of the adoption disrupting and fighting against a system which isn’t fit for purpose, I continue to battle painful memories, sadness, guilt, and daily anxiety. It has been a soul-destroying, at times lonely, confusing and an uncomfortable journey, but we have made it through to the other side and we are now in the process of healing and moving forward.
Due to my personal experience, I have a deep desire to support and encourage women who have faced emotional trauma for emotional healing. Whether this is through the loss of a loved one, an illness, a family break down and emotional or physical abuse. It is my desire to support women who have been ignored and treated unfairly by those who were meant to help, protect and support.
I, therefore, have set up ‘rebekahwrites.com’ it is designed to be an online space for women to come together to voice and share their stories, to tell others about their truths and to help emotional healing along the way.
Together we can empower and support one another, we don’t have to do this journey alone.
My hope is that together we can continue the journey to healing, forgiveness and to achieve a sense of peace. To be able to leave the past behind and to start afresh, ready to help others who have yet to walk similar paths to us.
If you’d like to share your story through a blog post, then please contact me on firstname.lastname@example.org. All stories can be anonymized. You can also join our private Facebook group to share & receive support.
From my heart to yours.
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