There are many women in India who because of being trapped in a bad marriage lose all hopes of reaching for their dreams. But there are some extremely determined women who rise above their circumstances and don’t just transform their own lives but go on transforming the lives others who are in the same type of situation. One such lady who survived a bad marriage, obesity and depression to bag the top notch beauty pageant of the country Mrs. India and to become a Life and Business Coach is Neha Vikas. Hear Neha’s amazing life journey by herself in this guest post by Neha Vikas herself!
I am Neha Vikas and I recently I bagged the title of Mrs. India 2019 in Mumbai, I am a believer of miracles and winning this pageant is one of them.
In 2014 I divorced from 17 years of toxic marriage that damaged me emotionally, physically and mentally which caused multiple autoimmune diseases like osteoarthritis and vitiligo.
YOU SEE, IN EVERY MOMENT, YOU HAVE A CHOICE. TO EITHER HONOR THE PART OF YOU THAT CRAVES SOMETHING MORE OR TO CONTINUE SQUEEZING INTO A ROLE THAT DOESN’T FILL YOUR CUP.
For most of my life, I didn’t know I had this choice. After all, I got married at the age of 19. Although it felt painful at times, I believed that I had to try my hardest to “measure up” to the cultural rules set before me:
To be a good Indian girl by marrying and having children, instead of pursuing higher studies
To be a submissive and obedient housewife who rolled a perfect chapatti, instead of a woman who had an exciting and abundant career
And to always attend to the desires of my husband, family, and friends before even considering my own.
For my entire life, I lived in fear of disappointing others, and I believed there was something wrong with me in the moments I failed to meet their wishes. I battled with the part of myself that wanted to do things differently and carve my own path. I had dreams of climbing Mount Everest, enjoying in Spain, and seeing the Eiffel Tower in Paris.
DEEP DOWN, I WANTED THE FREEDOM TO BE ME
I just didn’t know how. So I went on playing it safe, toeing the line between fitting in and honoring my true self.
It wasn’t long before fear began to manifest itself in my physical form. In 2009 I was traumatized emotionally and was looking for emotional support and the universe answered my calling. I was miraculously was drawn to the book You Can Heal Your Life and all my problems and situations flashed in front my eyes and I got an understanding as to why my life is the way it is.
BEGINNING OF TRANSFORM WITH NEHA
For the first time in my life, I felt super charged up and empowered about what I want to do. After doing some finding and hunting I came across Heal Your Life teacher training in Australia and I was determined to do it. The course fee was 4 lakh rupees which at that point in time was really a huge sum for me. On top of this, my family was against me doing this course. So I did what was required. I literally begged and borrowed for funds to pursue my dreams because I was so sure this is what I want to do.
And that was the dawn of TRANSFORM WITH NEHA creating breakthroughs and transformations for those who need the most. Since I was not from a training background, psychology background or healing background it was difficult for me. But I had a burning desire and this module with a deep motivation because I really loved this work.
I REALIZED THAT THE PEACE AND LOVE HUMANKIND CRAVES RESIDES INSIDE EACH AND EVERY ONE OF US. AND WE CAN ACCESS IT ANYTIME.
I had been bed ridden for almost 3 years. Last 10 years of my life has been an intense journey from low self-esteem, self hates to self-love and acceptance.
I belong to Gujarat and currently a resident of Mumbai
I got trained and certified as an internationally acclaimed life and business coach from Australia and got a license from the USA to present my work globally since 2011.
Currently, I am married to an IAS officer for 5 years now.
I had been invited to Zee TV to share my life and work story.
If there is one thing that I would have never thought of then it is to be part of a pageant and top of it, winning it!
My intention to participate in this pageant was to be able to inspire others to take charge of their life and be able to love and accept themselves as they are.
I am determined to spread my story of immense hope, a leap of faith and tremendous courage.
Not only sharing “what I did” but also sharing “how I did it”
If I’ll be able to share this ray of hope with others then I’ll be able to stand in front of God and tell him I made use of everything you gave.
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Very inspiring story! Suffering under patriarchy and an orthodox society and then autoimmune disease also made its way. But the way she fought back and emerged a winner is a story of a proud autoimmune warrior. Kudos!
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Great effort and your thinking. keep it Up!
Salute to you ,you are a truly brave, wonder woman, keep it up, all the best, Regds Uday , we spoke today.
Helpful and Informative blog. Thanks for sharing it with us.